Lenten Tools for Success III

As a young adult, I never liked being called a sinner, I really didn’t think it was true. My perspective has changed over the years. I have come to realize that there are definitely times when I’ve made choices that were out of alignment with my higher self and with God. Forgiveness is a way for me to get into better alignment. Lent can be a time to remember the power of forgiveness.

Several faiths focus on the importance of forgiveness. In the case of Judisam the faithful are asked to address where they are out of alignment, to get back into alignment and to forgive themselves and others in the process.  When a Jewish person is asking for forgiveness from another, they are to do so in person whenever possible. 

Forgiveness may involve dealing with a “hot fire,” requiring a truce flag!


One of the places I was out-of-alignment was with a relative who was a close childhood friend. I deserted her emotionally at a time when she needed support from all her loved ones.  I have owned up to my part of the falling out, and I have asked forgiveness. She has not responded.

What I have learned about forgiveness is:

  •   I can ask for it and I can grant it. I do have a part, an important part.
  •   I cannot control the outcome. No matter how much I may want to be forgiven, my desires are only part of the equation.
  • Grace provides the healing salve. Grace opens hearts and minds that I cannot reach.

Doreen Virtue, Ph.D, suggests, “Forgiveness does not mean, ‘What you did is okay to me.’ It simply means, ‘I am no longer willing to carry around pain in response to your actions.’ When we withhold forgiveness in our hearts, we only punish ourselves, after all.” What this means for me is that when I give forgiveness, I am freed up.

So, what can you let go of or forgive today?

Who or what will support you in taking that action?


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